"End Intimate Partner Abuse
in Your Relationship"
From the Desk of Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.
If you want to end domestic abuse in your
relationship, this is the most important letter
you'll ever read.
Over the last decade, our organization has worked
with couples worldwide—and as a result we have
made an amazing discovery that is consistently
helping people break the cycle of partner abuse.
Can Abusers Change?
We learned that abusers—from all walks of
life—can change, despite common thinking.
The discovery we made is that the key to a
successful outcome with abusive relationships
is recognizing the psychopathology underlying
the batterer’s abusive behavior…and then, utilizing the proper therapy for domestic violence intervention in the context of relationship therapy.
Chances are you may have tried traditional couples counseling for the verbal, emotional, physical or mental abuse in your relationship. And to your surprise, you may have even encountered an intensification of the abuse symptoms while in therapy…as though the process was enabling it.
Then to confuse your already complex predicament, people you confide in outside of counseling tell you to leave your partner in order to end the domestic abuse. But, what you really want is the love you once had and the family you know.
And the last thing you want is to spend your family resources in divorce court...much less subject your innocent children to the psychological polarization inherent in domestic violence divorce.
Come with me and let me introduce you to a tried and true treatment intervention designed to help you and your partner break the cycle of domestic abuse in your relationship. And through this process you can cultivate a relationship atmosphere of mutual respect, honoring, support, romance and love.
We offer the resources and professional skill set to properly assess the viability of therapeutic change in an abusive relationship. Then once determined—if successful outcome is feasible—you can take advantage of effective domestic abuse intervention designed to break the cycle of spousal/partner abuse.
We’ve just met, so let me tell you who I am...as you may be wondering, why listen to me?
I have been helping people identify, end and heal from domestic abuse for over a decade. And I serve as a consulting expert on both civil and criminal cases of intimate partner violence.
The first book I wrote on the subject, All But My Soul, became a college textbook in criminal justice. Since this time, I've written (and published) 11 eBooks and over 475 articles on identifying, ending and healing physical, emotional and verbal abuse.
I am a seasoned psychologist of 30 years. And this background gives me the benefit of understanding the psychosocial dynamics that bind abusive relationships as well as the mechanics of healing relationship abuse. Dr. Jeanne King's Full Biography
Knowing "It" from the Inside Out
But all of my knowledge about domestic abuse intervention doesn't come from the hundreds of books I have read or from the people I have helped. It also comes from the fact that I, too, lived the nightmare and carried the pain of intimate partner abuse.
So I know it from the inside out as well. And I know how hard it is to find professional help that truly understands the actual inner ache of domestic violence AND the principles of healing relationship abuse from within.
I truly understand how important it is for you to end and heal from intimate partner abuse: emotionally, physically and psychologically. And I know the benefits this will yield for you, for your spouse and for your marriage and family.
End Intimate Partner Abuse in Your Relationship
before It Spirals Out of Control
The Intimate Partner Abuse Treatment Program is a finely tuned domestic violence treatment protocol, integrating a psychoeducational and psychotherapeutic intervention promoting change and healing for batterers and domestic abuse survivors.
One of the features that make this program unique is our focus on the psychology of abuse and battering behavior. Participants understanding of “why” batterers batter contributes to the effectiveness of the intervention.
Recognizing the psychology of domestic violence is central to our work with both abusers and survivors. We help abusers see the needs that are met through their efforts to diminish, disempower and overpower their partners. And victims learn about the dynamics of boundaries, responsibility and control in abusive relationships.
For the Batterer
The Intimate Partner Abuse Treatment Program provides men and women, who have been abusive in their intimate relationships, an opportunity to change their violent abusive behavior.
The intervention consists of education, support and therapeutic components that address the maladaptive use of power in relationships. The primary treatment goal is the development of new skills to facilitate non-violent and non-abusive behavioral responses with their intimate partner.
For the Victim/Survivor
The Intimate Partner Abuse Treatment Program offers healing remedies for the domestic abuse survivor. It provides the victim with the awareness of what maintains the cycle of abuse and the strategies to interrupt the insidious cycle.
Healing from domestic abuse is paramount to the treatment. Survivors completing the intervention mend their psychological scars and the emotional pain from being battered, while changing the habits of victimization.
"Thank you so very much for the tremendous help you have given along the way. Your insights have been life changing. I truly don't believe we would be where we are without your expertise and guidance. …You were my last hope. And it worked." Anonymous Participant in Domestic Abuse Treatment Program
"I know how to resolve conflict in a constructive manner now without being violent or abusive." Anonymous Male Participant
"Ever since I realized what you meant by accountability, I don't mouth off at her when I'm vulnerable. We are practicing 'fair fighting.' Thank you for helping us save our family." Anonymous Male Participant
"I am stronger and happier, and people tell me they see me being myself again." Anonymous Female Participant
"I hated the way I treated my spouse, but didn't know how to do it differently. This program has given me the skills I need to make the changes." Anonymous Male Participant
"I know now that I had no right to scare her. This should be taught in high school." Anonymous Male Participant
"This is the man I thought I married. Now, I'm happy when he comes home. Being in this program was a needed miracle for us." Anonymous Female Participant
How the Intimate Partner Abuse Treatment Program Works
This intervention is specifically designed to interrupt the cycle of domestic abuse and heal the injuries caused by intimate partner violence. Unlike traditional marital therapy, each person engages in the therapeutic process individually, as well as with their partner as a couple.
This treatment is in no way an opportunity to hide behind the abuse dynamic nor manipulate the therapist to side with either party. Instead, each person is expected to utilize their individual therapeutic alliance to their own personal benefit as they take responsibility for their respective growth, healing and change.
What the Batterer Can Expect
The primary focus of the Intimate Partner Abuse Treatment Program for the batterer is becoming aware of and accountable for their experience, their behavior and the impact of their actions on others.
Through the process of cognitive therapy and intensive inquiry, participants recognize how the use of “power and control” tactics foster interpersonal conflict. As they progress through successful completion of the program, they cultivate strategies for establishing and maintaining relationship harmony.
Mutual respect and mutual regard are key learning and healing outcomes of the Intimate Partner Abuse Treatment Program. In addition to the obvious relationship benefit, participants appreciate the positive changes they experience from within and the transformative effect this has on their lives in general.
What the Abused Can Expect
The victim’s process is parallel and collaborative to their partner’s treatment, while individually transformative. The focus of their intervention is healing from the impact of abuse and interrupting the abuse dynamic.
The abused learns the subtle communication patterns of battering relationships, along with what supports and what interrupts the abuse dynamic. Their heightened awareness prevents reflexive habits of victimization.
The therapy often involves finding her/his own inner voice through a systematic process of psychotherapeutic inquiry. The patient develops the capacity to access their own internal truth, and cultivates the ability to express their feelings accurately and express their needs effectively.
Domestic abuse survivors participating in this therapeutic process heal the impact of interpersonal violation, build self-esteem and self-confidence, and grow to embrace that which they love in their intimate relationship.
Frequently Asked Questions about the Intimate Partner Abuse Treatment Program
Yes. Emotional abuse and verbal abuse are components of a bigger domestic abuse picture and, in fact, are the most common forms of intimate partner abuse…relationship abuse…domestic violence.
The denial is the resistance, which is very normal on the front end, and effective therapy is designed to address this. So, you acknowledge that your partner's denial is part of the abuse dynamic, and you expect effective therapy to dismantle it. You start the therapy by yourself and let the therapists help engage your partner in the process. We are trained in dealing with denial and resistance.
You won't. And the more you try, the more resistant your partner will be.
However, you can get yourself involved in the domestic abuse therapeutic process and then encourage your partner to do likewise for the sake of your relationship. During the process of therapy, the therapist will confront your partner making you "the problem."
Currently, your partner may think you are the problem when, in fact, his/her response to you is the problem. A cornerstone of your partner's success in the therapy is their taking responsibility for their own behavior.
4) What if my partner is threatened by a therapeutic relationship that could empower me and over which he has no control?
We recommend that you begin the program individually just as you may have previously initiated marital therapy. We understand your partner's resistance and the underlying dynamics in play. We will work to bringyour partner into the session with you to engage his/her involvement in their own therapeutic process.
This program will actually help your partner understand and resolve their being threatened by your empowerment. The ultimate goal of the program is for your partner to become an ally in the process of your empowerment and you in theirs.
Marital therapy draws from a systems approach in which the goal of the therapy is to maintain the homeostasis of the system. Accordingly, the responsibility for relationship dysfunction is spread across the system.
Marital Therapy encourages the victim to assume some of the responsibility for the battering behavior. And in so doing, it discourages the abuser from becoming fully accountable for his/her battering behavior. The net result is that this intervention maintains, and can even exacerbate, the abuse dynamic.
Domestic Abuse Therapy, on the other hand, is designed to promote batterer accountability for abusive behavior, and help the abuser develop nonviolent/non-abusive alternative behaviors.
Anger Management Treatment primarily addresses the modulation of emotion and modification of behavior when an individual is emotionally escalated.
Domestic Abuse Treatment, while addressing the above issues, differs significantly from Anger Management Treatment in that it focuses extensively on the dynamics of abusive power and control tactics used in domestic relationships.
Good point. Yes, we do. Rest assured that change is possible, but highly unlikely without an effective treatment intervention.
To provide you with examples of batterer's successful treatment outcome through a domestic violence intervention, see sample case studies highlighting core issues:
8) How long is the Intimate Partner Abuse Treatment Program?
The base program is 26 individual weekly sessions. Additional individual and/or joint sessions with your intimate partner are provided as needed to meet the goals of the intervention.
9) Do I have to take the whole program?
Not necessarily. While the general expectation for success with this intervention is to complete the entire program, there may be individual cases where segments of the program are sufficient.
10) How are the sessions conducted?
All sessions take place on the telephone or via Skype.
11) How long is each session?
The typical session duration is one hour.
12) What is the cost of the program?
The program is billed session by session, payable monthly, and the cost range is $175 to $250 per consultation.
13) Is this treatment program covered by healthcare insurance?
That depends on your policy. However, you are responsible for payment of these services and for securing your reimbursement directly from your insurance company.
14) Is there follow-up support after completing the program?
Yes, ongoing support is available. You can obtain follow-up sessions at varying intervals (one month, three months, six months and one year). Or, you can secure ongoing weekly, bi-monthly or as needed support to maintain your progress.
15) How do I determine whether this program is appropriate for me and my partner?
The best way to determine program appropriateness is through an individual personal consultation. You can reserve an appointment from this website below.
How to Inquire About or Start the
Intimate Partner Abuse Treatment Program
We will contact you within 24-48 hours with available appointment times. Your payment reserves your session. We look forward to helping you.
We do not give personalized professional advice by email to individuals with whom we have no prior experience. If you would like us to help, simply reserve your appointment directly from this website.
May there be peace and well-being for you and yours.
Jeanne King, Ph.D.
Partners in Prevention
PS. Intimate partner abuse does not end without intervention.